"Please Stay Before You Go"

Ever found yourself rushing through life’s milestones without truly savoring the moment? That’s exactly what happened to me, as I worked towards manifesting my dream house. Inspired by the powerful quote, "Please stay before you go," I realized that my relentless focus on the future was preventing me from appreciating my current home and achievements. Join me on this episode of Updated AF Collective, where I share my journey of slowing down, embracing the present, and cultivating gratitude for each season of life.

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Seasonal Appreciation and Journey Stay

Speaker 1 0:00

Hey guys , welcome back to Updated AF Collective , the podcast . I am your host , megan Wirth , today's episode . I had this great episode planned out . I wrote notes . I did so much prep work for this idea that I wanted to share with everybody .

Speaker 1 0:19

And then something else happened . I was listening to another person's podcast and she was interviewing this really great author . I've never heard of this author , but I've already ordered her brand new book because she made a comment that made me stop what I was doing , which at the time , I think I was just doing my makeup . That's the best time to listen to podcasts when you're getting dressed in the morning . And I stopped what I was doing and I immediately wrote it down on a sticky note and I put it on my mirror , because if you've heard me talk about my mirror , it's full of sticky notes . It's my accountability mirror and I immediately put that quote up on the mirror and it makes me like really think about stuff . And it makes me like really think about stuff and I will share the quotes on today's episode and maybe it's something that you need to be reminded of and maybe it's something that you also need to write down on a little sticky note and put it on your mirror to remind yourself of this thing every single day . We are here for a reason . We are going through seasons of life for a reason . We are going through challenges for a reason , right , and this little reminder is going to help you get through those challenging moments . Guys , welcome back to the show .

Speaker 1 1:49

Welcome to the updated AF collective podcast , where we celebrate the power and resilience of women . Join me as we dive into inspiring stories , engage in meaningful conversations and explore topics that empower women from all walks of life . I believe that every woman has a unique strength within her waiting to be unleashed . Whether you're an entrepreneur , a leader , a creative , a caregiver or simply on your own personal journey , this podcast is for you . Together , we'll share stories of triumph , discuss strategies for success and provide a supportive space for women to connect and grow . Get ready for real , authentic conversations that ignite your inner strength and inspire you to chase after your dreams fearlessly . Welcome to the Updated AF Collective .

Speaker 1 2:39

Okay , what is that quote that I brought up and didn't say it in the beginning of this episode ? I have to give the backstory behind the quote first . This author was talking about a chapter in her book where she remembers this woman at her workplace who in her two weeks of work and was kind of coasting . There was nothing wrong with her job or anything . Apparently she loved the position but she was moving on to something bigger and better with more money and another company . So she puts her 2 weeks in to her boss and everything was great During those 2 weeks . I guess it was the first week she was just coasting . She would show up to work , not do anything . It was too busy packing up her desk , taking things out of the office and her reputation was like a hard worker . So she had that reputation of getting shit done . She was the go-to girl . And then when she put her two weeks in , it just completely flatlined . So her boss wrote her a note and put it on her desk and it said please stay before you go .

Speaker 1 3:53

And it just hit me in a way that was so profound . They were not talking about the law of attraction , they were not talking about manifestation , they weren't talking about seasons of life . But my brain took that saying please before you go and just ran with it . It's like I had that light bulb moment . I'm so quick to check off boxes to achieve a goal and right as I'm about to achieve that goal . I'm already working on the second goal and I'm already celebrating that win without actually winning or like have anything to celebrate about . I'm how about ? How many people are just checking off boxes , running through life , going through one thing after another , and we're all in this rat race and we're just trying to outdo our previous self when we're growing . But what if we just stayed ? We stayed in that season until it was actually time to move on to the next season of life , the next era , the next whatever , how many I mean ?

Speaker 1 5:12

I honestly feel like now , after hearing that quote , I honestly feel like I need to slow down . All of these great things are on the horizon for me and I'm manifesting like crazy . For example , I just manifested my freaking dream house yeah , somebody gave me a mortgage , I don't get to move until next week . And I keep making the comment oh my God , I can't wait to get out of this house . I'm just so ready to be in the new house and I'm like I have checked out . I've kind of like stopped maintenance on this house that I'm currently living in . I'm picking up after myself , I'm keeping things clean , but at the same time , I'm also like I'm just over it and I don't want to be in here and it has that icky vibe . It doesn't feel like a home . I've already started taking things down and I'm just like prepping for the new house , but then again , after hearing that quote , I'm like I need to slow down . This has been a great place . It has been a safe house for me and my daughter . It's absolutely beautiful .

Speaker 1 6:13

I'm completely disregarding all of the positives that led me to this specific spot here in my little cute town in the countryside outside of San Antonio , like where I wanted to live . I feel like a Gilmore girl here Like this . It's beautiful . I need to slow down and just one be appreciative , show gratitude for this amazing place . This house that I'm currently in is a manifestation and instead of sitting and celebrating this season of life that is literally coming to an end , I am blowing past the celebration and I'm already thinking , oh , new house , new house , get me out of here . And I have to remind myself at one point this is the house I wanted , that I'm currently in in the town that I'm in . One point , this is the house I wanted , that I'm currently in , like in the town that I'm in , and I am not staying . I'm not staying in the season . I'm not staying in the moment . This season's not over . I need to just take it all in , learn , keep learning the lessons . There's a reason why I'm here and I need to stop rushing out the door to get to that next check in the box , which again was buying a house here in Texas , and I've done that my entire life . I have literally been in survival mode my entire life , always trying to get to the next thing . I'm running around like a crazy person .

Speaker 1 7:46

If you know my story , I've wanted to be in law enforcement since I was a freaking toddler and I had issues with that . I needed to just get away . There's a lot of reasons why I left for the military , but one of the reasons why is I needed to just reset my life . I needed to restart . I needed to apparently have more life experience to get into law enforcement . Anyway , I rushed through that . I didn't even celebrate myself after graduating .

Speaker 1 8:14

Boot camp which is the hardest thing I've ever done in my entire life was Marine Corps bootcamp . I didn't celebrate that . I went home and I was preparing myself for MCT , which is the next phase in the military . I was preparing myself . I was going out on runs , I was working out . Don't get me wrong . I had one night where I went and saw my girlfriends that lived in California who were home on leave . We all just graduated bootcamp but we didn't really celebrate it . We were already talking about the next thing .

Speaker 1 8:48

After that , after getting out of the Marine Corps , I had five days to prepare for the police academy in San Diego . Did I celebrate my chapter ending in the Marine Corps ? Hell , no , I didn't . I jumped right into a reserve unit in the started the police academy . Onto the next thing I didn't even celebrate graduating the police academy .

Speaker 1 9:13

I didn't celebrate leaving law enforcement to move to Texas to start this new phase of life , and I didn't stop and just stay in the moment and finish out the season . I was already starting the new season of life without even closing the chapter on the last one , which makes me feel empty and I'm always constantly looking for the next best thing . It's really scary , because what I've learned the hard way is if I don't stop and take a breath and look back at where I've been coming from and where I'm at now . I feel resentful towards myself . I feel like I'm never enough , that I'm never getting . I'm running and running and running in this hamster wheel and I'm never getting to where I'm going , because I think it's because I'm not stopping and appreciating it . If I stop and appreciate it and I look back and I'm like holy shit , like look where I started , I'm that girl that should have been a statistic . I I am shocked .

Speaker 1 10:29

I have made , stuck in that you know , the Bay area of California , probably waitressing or something worse . Like I said , like if you know my story , you know my story . I don't think I need to repeat it here . But I mean failing all my classes , I mean barely passing the ASVAB and just getting to where I'm at today . I just need to stay before I go . And it makes me emotional because I can't believe I always treated myself like that . It's like I've come a long way and when I heard her say that on this podcast , it made me tear up because I manifested living here in the small town of Texas and I'm not even grateful anymore because I'm already looking forward to the next chapter . So what I told myself is I'm going to sit here in this space until it is actually moving day , until it's actually time to go . I'm going to stay . I stopped taking things down , I stopped cacking because I have movers . I don't know why I'm so anxious to get the hell out of here when at one point , I prayed for this .

Speaker 1 11:43

So think about all of your accomplishments and think about every single time you've just been checking off boxes and you're running and running and running to the next goal , next goal , which is great . I love growth , right ? Growth is great . You should be growing , but you also should be stopping when something that you manifest comes to life , comes into reality , comes into your world , and just stop for a second . And when it is time to start that chapter , make sure you close out the chapter that you're in so you guys don't need to get like emotional . It's just like , uh , just a friendly reminder is before you go stay . Just a friendly reminder

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Speaker 1 12:36

is before you go stay .

Speaker 1 12:36

Thanks for listening . Guys , if you're getting anything out of this podcast , I'd appreciate if you leave a ? Uh , a review rate . Subscribe all the things . Share the episode . If somebody out there in your life is a workaholic or you can see it in somebody else that they're doing something very similar to this , share the episode . Write this saying down on a sticky note and put it on your mirror , your accountability mirror . Every single time I look into the mirror , I have all these different quotes . I'm constantly reminded . We need to be reminded sometimes to just slow down and , like I said , feel free to share this episode . Guys , I will see you next week , mwah .

Speaker 2 13:16

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